When family law judges in California and around the country make child custody decisions, they tend to favor co-parenting arrangements. The results of several studies suggest that children are less likely to be traumatized by a divorce if they are able to spend time with both of their parents, but making co-parenting work can be extremely difficult when one of the parents is selfish, narcissistic or bitter.
Parents in California or any other state who get divorced generally have the ability to retain a relationship with their children. In most cases, a judge will determine who has custody of the child as well as the rights of the noncustodial parent. However, it is possible that a child custody hearing will be scheduled at an inconvenient time or in an inconvenient location. Fortunately, parents may be able to appear at a hearing by phone or by video.
Traditionally, mothers usually got sole custody of their kids after a divorce. However, over the past three decades, it has become more common for parents to share custody of their children. Generally speaking, most child custody cases in California and throughout the country start by assuming that joint custody rights are in the child's best interest. In some cases, a parent may be entitled to legal custody without being granted physical custody rights.
The decision to divorce is a double-edged sword. You may feel that you could lead a much happier life if you were no longer married, but ending your marriage will also come with many life changes that could be difficult to handle at first. Still, you and many other California residents may feel willing to take this risk.